3 Sexual Positions The Church Won’t Talk About

God invented sex.

The Bible addresses sex.

Does God want the Church to talk about sex? Seems like it. Has the Church done the best job sharing God’s message about sex? Not always—but we have an opportunity to change that.

Sex isn’t meant to be hidden or forbidden. The message culture needs to hear about sex is not silence or screaming, but to see its significance.

3 Sexual Positions The Church Won’t Talk About

1. Same-Sex Sex

Different groups say different things about gay people, but Jesus speaks the best message to them. He made clear His intention for sex is one man and one woman in marriage (Matthew 19:4-6). Yet Jesus consistently spent time with and accepted people without approving of their sinful behavior because He wants what’s best for everyone (John 8:2-11).

Churches tend to see gay people through only their sexuality, but not their humanity. In reality, all of us are far more than to whom we are attracted. We all need friendship, help, love, and Jesus to rescue us from our sins. The Church is meant to be a place where all people are welcome, no matter which kinds of sins are in their past or their present (1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

2. Open Relationship Sex

Open or non-monogamous relationships promote emotional and sexual interaction with people outside of their current relationships and marriages. A TV network even tried—and failed—to bring the swingers’ lifestyle into mainstream attention. The trouble with open relationships is that couples functionally divorce and hook up with someone else without acknowledging how permitted cheating undermines commitment and erodes intimacy.

Yes, sexuality is for sharing—between husband and wife (1 Corinthians 7:2). Relational, emotional, and sexual commitment doesn’t limit the greatness of the marriage, but magnifies it. A pure and faithful marriage is honorable (Hebrews 13:4).

Friends with benefits are fun for a time, but can’t compare to the fulfillment of a loyal marriage.

3. Self-Servicing Sex

Because relationships and commitment are demanding, it’s tempting to seek fulfillment on our own—most often using pornography or lusting over a person’s body. 

If spouses’ bodies belong to each other, acting alone opposes the purpose of marriage: oneness (1 Corinthians 7:3-5). Masturbation turns what God designed to build intimacy between husband and wife into a solo activity. Masturbation is about selfish pleasure, but sex is about shared intimacy and mutual pleasure.

Rather than using Bible excerpts to wound people who hold different perspectives, we can encourage conversations about God’s intent for sexuality.

No matter our positions on sex, we all need healing and help. If we’ve misused our sexuality and relationships, Jesus invites us to turn away from sin and toward Him. If we’re trying to figure out how to have the best sex life, God can help us discover what that looks like.

Rather than using Bible excerpts to wound people who hold different perspectives, the Church can encourage conversations about God’s intent for sexuality, gracefully sharing the truth (Ephesians 4:15).

Visit your NewSpring campus’ Care Room after a service or email hello@newspring.cc if you want help, healing, or to talk or pray with someone.

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